Thursday, November 14, 2013

So, I Received This Email Today

A lady in a faded gingham dress and her husband, dressed in a homespun threadbare suit, stepped off the train in Boston , and walked timidly without an appointment into the Harvard University President's outer office. 

The secretary could tell in a moment that such backwoods, country hicks had no business at Harvard & probably didn't even deserve to be in Cambridge .."We'd like to see the president," the man said softly.

"He'll be busy all day," the secretary snapped.

"We'll wait," the lady replied.

For hours the secretary ignored them, hoping that the couple would finally become discouraged and go away.

They didn't, and the secretary grew frustrated and finally decided to disturb the president, even though it was a chore she always regretted.

"Maybe if you see them for a few minutes, they'll leave," she said to him!

He sighed in exasperation and nodded. Someone of his importance obviously didn't have the time to spend with them, and he detested gingham dresses and homespun suits cluttering up his outer office.

The president, stern faced and with dignity, strutted toward the couple.

The lady told him, "We had a son who attended Harvard for one year. He loved Harvard. He was happy here. But about a year ago, he was accidentally killed. My husband and I would like to erect a memorial to him, somewhere on campus."

The president wasn't touched. He was shocked.

"Madam," he said, gruffly, "we can't put up a statue for every person who attended Harvard and died. If we did, this place would look like a cemetery."

"Oh, no," the lady explained quickly. "We don't want to erect a statue. We thought we would like to give a building to Harvard."

The president rolled his eyes. He glanced at the gingham dress and homespun suit, then exclaimed, "A building! Do you have any earthly idea how much a building costs? We have over seven and a half million dollars in the physical buildings here at Harvard."

For a moment the lady was silent. The president was pleased. Maybe he could get rid of them now.

The lady turned to her husband and said, "Is that all it cost s to start a university? Why don't we just start our own?"

Her husband nodded. The president's face wilted in confusion and bewilderment.

Mr. and Mrs. Leland Stanford got up and walked away, traveling to Palo Alto, CA where they established the university that bears their name, Stanford University, a memorial to a son that Harvard no longer cared about. 

You can easily judge the character of others by how they treat those who they think can do nothing for them.

A TRUE STORY by Malcolm Forbes

"People will forget what you said; People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." 

So, how true was this story?  Enter MythBuster Stage Right..... also has the same clarification on this story.


This enduring and entertaining tale supposedly outlines the origins of California's prestigious Stanford University. According to the story, after Mr. and Mrs. Leland Stanford were rudely rebuffed by the President of Harvard University when they offered to fund a building to honour the memory of their dead son, the pair subsequently established the university that bears their name. The story claims that the couple met such a cold and arrogant reception at Harvard because they were dressed in a "faded gingham dress" and a "homespun threadbare suit" and thereby had the appearance of penniless country bumpkins. It is a nice story, and one that carries a valuable moral lesson - people should not make snap judgements based on a person's initial appearance or demeanour.

An old urban legend falsely claims that Leland and Jane Stanford established Stanford University only after being rudely rebuffed by the President of Harvard when they offered to fund a new building there However, while core elements in the tale are more or less factual, as a whole it strays a long way from the truth. In fact it is an urban legend that has been circulating for more than a decade. Leland and Jane Stanford did indeed establish Stanford University, they did visit Harvard University before establishing Stanford and, sadly, they did have a son that died young. Historical notes published on Stanford's website suggest that the couple did indeed create the institution as a memorial to their son. However, any truth in the story well and truly ends with these few facts.

The family was well-to-do and certainly would not have dressed as poor country hicks, especially when attending an important meeting. Moreover, Leland Stanford was a powerful and influential man, astute at business, a political leader, later a U.S. Senator and at one point, Governor of California. Hardly the type of individual who would venture "timidly" into a university office and then quietly wait for hours to be seen. And the couple's son, Leland Jr, died not of an accident, but of typhoid fever while travelling with his family in Italy. The boy was only 15 years old and was not attending Harvard or any other university at the time of his death. Before going ahead with plans to establish their university, the Stanfords did visit several eastern universities, including Harvard where they spoke to then president Charles William Eliot. However, they were not rudely dismissed at these visits and in fact received valuable advice that helped them in their project. Information about the founding of Stanford University on the institution's website notes:

The Stanfords visited several great universities of the East to gather ideas. An urban legend, widely circulated on the Internet but untrue, describes the couple as poorly-dressed country bumpkins who decided to found their own university only after being rebuffed in their offer to endow a building at Harvard. They did visit Harvard's then president but were well-received and given advice on starting a new university in California.

The story was also resoundingly debunked in a 1998 edition of a university publication, the Stanford Magazine:

Take the tale of two "backwoods country hicks" that's been zapped across the nation and around the world in countless e-mails over the last few months. The story has it that sometime in the 1880s a man and woman show up unannounced to meet with the president of Harvard. They talk to him about building a memorial for their son, who "accidentally killed" himself after his freshman year at Harvard. Eyeing the woman's "faded gingham dress" and the man's "homespun threadbare suit," the president rudely informs them of the cost of building a university. "Is that all?" the woman says to her husband. "Why don't we just start our own?" With that, the story goes, Leland and Jane Stanford returned to Palo Alto, "where they established the University that bears their name, a memorial to a son that Harvard no longer cared about."

The account, of course, is wrong -- and, in places, absurd. Leland Jr. died of typhoid fever at age 15. He never enrolled at Harvard. His parents did visit Harvard President Charles Eliot, but only to get advice on endowing a university. Perhaps most ridiculous is the notion that Sen. Stanford, a wealthy railroad baron, and his wife would show up in ratty clothes.

Still, the story lives on. Stanford officials have fielded questions from tourists, alumni, reporters -- and Harvard itself. Archivist Margaret Kimball, '80, was even asked to settle a bet between a husband and wife. "I might have caused a divorce," she says.

Thus, while the story may be entertaining, it is not an accurate account of the founding of Stanford University. This version of the story falsely claims that it was penned by the late Malcolm Forbes, a well known business leader and publisher of Forbes magazine.

The first quote included at the bottom of the message is generally attributed to American poet Maya Angelou. The slightly munged and abridged second quote, attributed in the message to James Arthur Ray, is more usually attributed to 19th Century American politician and orator, William Jennings Bryan who said, "Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved". 

Stanford Facts: The Founding of Stanford
Stanford Magazine - Start Small